Welcome back, dear reader.
It’s been a wonderful week. My grandmother is doing well, and she seemed genuinely thrilled to see me. It only confirms my thoughts that family and friends are the best medicine. I just finished having a lovely visit with one of my best friend’s Moms (and by proxy, she is my Mom too) and it’s left me feeling incredibly happy and rejuvenated. I truly love her and her entire family, and I’m positive that they love me back. Now, on to the article.
Recovery takes love, time, and patience.
Patience is something that I had to learn to have for my self, rather than for others. I am naturally somewhat tolerant and patient when it comes to those in my life, but horribly intolerant of patience in changing my self. I want to make changes immediately and without the effort and time and self-love necessary for those changes to become a part of who I am. I knew what I wanted to be, but the process of getting there was a matter of learning to love who I am.
Here are my steps to recovery:
When you have patience in your journey to recovery, you’ll find that you have patience for your daily self and its struggles.
When you practice taking time for your self every day, you’ll find that love for your self (and others) comes naturally.
When you have patience and time for your self, you’ll find that you love who you are every day.
When you love who you are every day, you’ll find that you’ve begun to recover.
Recovery from depression, illness, grief, and self-inflicted wounds is a lifelong journey of self-love.
It sounds preachy and a bit corny, but it’s entirely true. Just like you take care to not re-injure a broken leg or arm, you’ve got to remember to practice self-love lest you re-open old wounds.
My journey to recovery isn’t over, and is something I’ll be aware of my entire life. It doesn’t mean that I will be incapacitated by it my entire life, rather that I will remember to be kind to my self every day so I don’t undo the habits I’ve begun to form that have made me better.
You can always find room in your heart for your self. If you can’t, you are probably giving away too much of your time, patience, and love, to others. There’s nothing wrong with that, but if it leaves you drained of those things then it’s a good idea to make more time for your own practice of recovery; those around you will understand. If they don’t, just show them this blog post and tell them Steven told you to do it. I can take the heat for you, and you, my friend, can get some well deserved rest.
As always, dear reader, thank you for visiting my blog. Your readership means the world to me. I hope that this helped you in some small way, and that you’ll share it with someone who could use it.
If you’re bored or looking for more content about depression and the journey to recovery, try reading Coping with depression, or Recovery in the face of Psychosis (and you can too).